You’ve heard a “half” truth, its goes something like this, “Love is the absence of fear”, “You can’t feel love and fear at the same time.” Sounds good and it is a simple answer, but the truth is that love is a complex emotion and is the only emotion that seeks to understand your fear. Love can heal and transform your fear into value. In our world of duality, love has its own shadow, it is the fear of loss. The more you love someone or something, the more you fear losing it.
Most people are so afraid of fear that they take a short cut and decide to resist love because they fear they may get hurt, disappointed, etc. This allows fear to diminish your ability to love. When you understand that love has its own fear to deal with, then you can let it be part of the equation. It is only love that has the power to transform fear.
The next time you feel fear around issues of love, you can make a conscious choice to say to yourself, “OK, fear I feel you but I am not going to stop loving!” When you commit to love in the face of fear something magical happens. You become more empowered and your ability to love and be intimate deepens. Fear has many purposes, one of it’s purposes is to show you what really matters to you in life. When you are afraid of losing someone or something, aren’t you really telling yourself how important that person or thing is to you?
Focus on loving, if and when fear surfaces, don’t run from the love. Rather, challenge yourself to plunge full force with love and watch how quickly it transforms fear into value. When you love in spite of fear, you empower yourself rand reduce the fear, thus creating a complex relationship between love and fear. This complexity can provide a monumental leap forward in your ability to love more deeply and can actually transform your fear into power.
Tags: Fear, handling fear, loving more deeply, personal growth, spiritual lesson, spirituality
Thanks Alyssa. I know what you mean, most people do an ‘either - or’ approach to fear and love instead of understanding there is a delicate relationship between the two. Thanks for posting on my blog. I have an article about Fear you may be interested in reading on my site http://soul-utions.com/Overcome_Fear_of_the_Future.php
With Peace,
Michaiel
thanks so much for your post - I totally agree about loves duality - not something that is spoken of much.. and something I would like to see more explanation of. I’m so glad you raised it.